When Job-Interview Questions Become Too Personal

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From the Wall Street Journal | Sept 13, 2010 | By Sue Shellenbarger



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Prepping for job interviews is the subject of plenty of coaching and advice. But when job interviews turn to
juggle-related topics, some questions can catch interviewees completely
unprepared.


Some women readers say they have been asked, “What are your
child-care arrangements?” or “Do you plan to have a family any time
soon?” Author Bob Rosner identifies other “toxic questions” in his
book, “The Boss’s Survival Guide”:  “I love your accent;
where are you from?” (This one suggests ethnic or racial
discrimination.) “When did you graduate from high school?” (This one
smacks of age discrimination.) “Are you currently using birth control?”
(Again, implies pregnancy discrimination.)


To avoid appearing to discriminate based on sex, bosses should stick
strictly to job-related queries. Employers with 15 or more employees are
covered by federal anti-discrimination law, which makes sex and
pregnancy discrimination illegal; a few states, including New York, New
Jersey and California, have anti-bias laws covering smaller employers.


Some managers try to startle interviewees into candid revelations
about their personal values or philosophy. Ad executive Michael
Mathieu
told the New York Times that he likes to ask candidates,
“What is the meaning of life?” He said, “It’s a fun question because no
one’s expecting it.” One of his favorite answers, he added, was, “Are
you talking about my business life or my personal life?”


Rather than probing too much, one of my bosses on a previous job many
years ago took the opposite tack: He simply stopped talking and stared
at the applicant for a minute or more of stony silence. The strategy: To
size up candidates’ poise. Would they jabber senselessly to fill up the
silence, pose an intelligent question, or squirm in anxiety?


Meanwhile, nannies seem to be the target of oddball queries from
potential employers, as I’ve reported previously. Some parents ask nanny
candidates, “How often do you bathe?” or, “Do you have a boyfriend?”
Others say they have been asked if they have sexually transmitted
diseases.


Readers, have you been asked surprising or disarming questions in job
interviews? Or inappropriate ones? If you have been on the hiring end,
what are your favorite questions? What do you think is the right
boundary against probing too much on personal issues?

1 Reply






      • 10:57 am
        September 13, 2010


      • Anonymous wrote:



      “Rather than probing too much, one of my
      bosses on a previous job many years ago took the opposite tack: He
      simply stopped talking and stared at the applicant for a minute or more
      of stony silence. The strategy: To size up candidates’ poise. Would they
      jabber senselessly to fill up the silence, pose an intelligent
      question, or squirm in anxiety?”


      Ugh - I hate people like this. I would jabber “senselessly” and I’m a
      perfectly intelligent, poised person. Why would you pose an
      intelligent question to somebody behaving like a freak?











      • 11:18 am September 13, 2010

      • Elys wrote:



      I’ve been asked
      family planning questions by interviewers who had to know better. In
      each case, I replied without displaying my disccomfort. I was not happy
      about the interview, but I wouldn’t have been working directly for him.
      If we want that job, what other choice is there?











      • 11:32 am September 13, 2010

      • Howard wrote:



      “What is
      the meaning of life?”

      Now THAT’S a question I’d love to see reporters throw at a candidate for
      public office, preferably a higher office such as Senator or
      Congressman. And I’d live to see the candidate stand there with his (or
      her) mouth hanging open, trying to remember if that was one of the
      questions his handlers had prepped him for the night before. It would
      make a great YouTube moment, as well as reminding the voters that the
      folks we are sending to Washington these days are neither the best nor
      the brightest.











      • 11:34 am September 13, 2010

      • Minneapolis wrote:



      Elys -
      why not just say, “I’m sorry, I don’t see how this is relevant to the
      job” and leave it at that? It could be a warped test of sorts - to see
      if you had the gumption to refuse to disclose such personal information.
      I would have plenty of respect for a person who redirected or simply
      said, “sorry, not your business.”


      I used to have to coach my old boss on what not to ask. He was a
      friendly, grandfatherly sort who had a knack for asking pretty young
      women about men and babies. I gave him an all-out lecture on this after
      one particularly horrible interview when I was half-afraid the
      candidate would run straight to the EEOC with a transcript of the
      debacle.











      • 11:38 am September 13, 2010

      • Dan wrote:



      “What is the
      meaning of life?”

      What a meaningless question. You would hire someone good at giving
      clever quips rather than qualified employees. I guess his management
      style is granade throwing.











      • 11:43 am September 13, 2010

      • Bert wrote:



      I interview
      college graduates, both under graduate and graduate and it seems that
      they are getting coached on how to inteview, that they forget the
      inteview is about why you would hire them. My last question is why
      should I hire you and I’ve had answers from my girlfriend has relatives
      where your company is located to I have been in rotation programs before
      and I can hit the ground running. Simple answer is that I get it done.
      When given the opportunity, being self motiviated and self directed, I
      deliver high quality work.











      • 11:47 am September 13, 2010

      • NCanaan wrote:



      A
      classmate of mine who has her own firm likes to ask candidates if
      they’ve ever been a best man or maid or matron of honor in someone’s
      wedding. She likes to know if the candidate has made an important
      enough impact on someone else’s life to be honored in that way. Not
      sure what it reveals about their potential as an employee, but I thought
      it was an interesting approach.











      • 11:49 am September 13, 2010

      • Nicole Hamilton wrote:



      Unfortunately,
      bias tends to be a lot like art, you know it when you see it but it’s
      darned hard to pin it down unless it’s really overt. Identifying certain
      questions as toxic tends to have the unintended consequence, not of
      diminishing bias in the workplace, but of offering advice on how to do
      it without leaving a smoking gun.











      • 11:53 am September 13, 2010

      • JimInCT wrote:



      Any
      manager who asks a prospective employee about family planning in this
      day and age is so oblivious that, even if one wouldn’t be working for
      him/her, one should take a pass on any job offer. Even if the company is
      not sued or fined out of existence, such questions indicate systemic
      incompetence in company management.











      • 11:55 am September 13, 2010

      • L wrote:



      I haven’t been
      asked anything inappropriate during interviews, thank goodness. I
      remember when I was interviewing for my law firm summer job during
      school, they all asked why I was interested in X city, because it was in
      a different place from Y city where I went to school, but that’s as far
      as it went.











      • 12:03 pm September 13, 2010

      • SWVA Mom wrote:



      As an
      interviewer, my favorite question to ask is, “What was the biggest error
      in judgment you have made in a previous job. Why did you make it and
      how did you correct it?” I like to see people admit they have made
      mistakes and own up to them. It’s interesting to see if they will admit
      to a personal or professional error.











      • 12:05 pm September 13, 2010

      • Denver Dad wrote:



      I was
      once asked “what is your personal relationship with Jesus Christ?”
      Apparently since they were registered as a religious organization, they
      were allowed to ask the question. I was taken aback but ultimately
      found it funny because I have an obviously Jewish last name. I didn’t
      get the job.











      • 12:07 pm September 13, 2010

      • JMK wrote:



      I used to ask
      how many manhole covers there were in a particular city. This was to
      check for problem solving ability. It also would catch the candidate
      off-guard. Most did not do very well. They had no idea or just gave
      up.











      • 12:11 pm September 13, 2010

      • MiaMama wrote:



      I was
      asked about my religion as an interviewee and inappropriate family
      planning questions as an employee. It happens. Frankly for my current
      company having a family reason to be tied to a specific area is seen as a
      good thing and I knew that going in. I think among two equally
      qualified candidates the person with a large extended family in the area
      and who is planning to have kids and settle there long term would have a
      better shot at the job. The single person who has no reason to live in
      that area will more likely leave just as we have finished training and
      we would lose all of the investment in the employee.











      • 12:16 pm September 13, 2010

      • Will Ferrell wrote:



      Great
      photo of Ken Jeong and John C. Reilly from the film Step Brothers.
      Interesting choice.











      • 12:16 pm September 13, 2010

      • Minneapolis wrote:



      SWVA
      Mom - excellent question! Depending on the nature of the job, I have
      asked: “Tell me about a time when you did not see eye-to-eye with your
      supervisor (or team member) and how you resolved that situation.” I
      love having people own up to being imperfect (or not universally
      agreed-with) and I enjoy seeing different problem solving styles. I
      have had the occasional cocky young guy say, “Oh, I can get anyone to do
      anything!” Wink ;-) Funny, but not really my cup of tea. On the other
      hand, I am sure different industries are looking for different things
      and that guy might be just the ticket for other lines of work.











      • 12:20 pm September 13, 2010

      • Dan wrote:



      what is your
      personal relationship with Jesus Christ?


      He’s a friend on Facebook











      • 12:21 pm September 13, 2010

      • JMK wrote:



      What value does
      “catch the candidate off-guard” provide? I think it a control issue on
      your part.











      • 12:23 pm September 13, 2010

      • Mr. Google wrote:



      Ad
      executive Michael Mathieu told the New York Times that he likes to ask
      candidates, “What is the meaning of life?” He said, “It’s a fun question
      because no one’s expecting it.


      Well, they are expecting it now!











      • 12:23 pm September 13, 2010

      • Jeff Atwood wrote:



      What’s
      missing here is whether interview questions, or one-time interviews
      themselves, are really indicative of the on-the-job performance of the
      person you are hiring. OK, so someone aces the interview (define
      “aces”), then performs miserably on-the-job. Just because someone can
      answer interview questions with poise, they could have been coached. Are
      we really looking for a personality in an interview? Trying to hire
      someone with whom working would be pleasant, even if that person is not
      the most technically qualified? I’m not sure that most people understand
      the difference between interview-behavior and on-the-job behavior. I’ve
      been on too many interviews where the interviewer tries to lord his or
      her power over the poor interviewee (which is a red flag for the
      interviewee in my experience). Remember, the interview is revealing for
      both parties.











      • 12:51 pm September 13, 2010

      • A son wrote:



      Trying to
      hire someone with whom working would be pleasant, even if that person is
      not the most technically qualified?


      That’s usually the case in my business. We deal with technical
      people who can be very qualified but are impossible to work with. In
      many cases it’s because some of the technical requirements are driven by
      politics. “Yes, it would make sense to do A but unions and the
      department heads won’t agree to change their workflow.” Some people
      have a real hard time with that and balk at implementing solutions they
      don’t feel are ideal.











      • 12:54 pm September 13, 2010

      • NEGirl wrote:



      I hate
      silly trick questions and tactics (like the staring one, or someone
      asking what kind of tree you would be if you were a tree, or the
      “meaning of life” question). I look at someone’s background and work
      history to see what kind of jobs they’ve held, ask questions relevant to
      our industry, etc. Maid of Honor/Best Man? Really? Even that one seems
      odd to me.


      And, regarding the “when did you graduate from high school” could
      actually be a verification that someone is qualified and has graduated.
      I’ve seen several resumes for positions that state “Attended X College”
      and then list a 4-year span–or just leave the years off completely, for
      jobs in which a degree was listed as a requirement. These applicants
      likely didn’t finish college, and yet were applying for a position where
      that was considered a requirement. (I’d rather not get into a
      discussion about whether that makes sense or not–bottom line–>degree
      required.) So IMHO, it’s perfectly legitimate to ask “when did you
      graduate?”


      I’ve been asked questionable things (are you married? Aren’t you
      bored in (small city)?) but not in a while–I don’t know if employers
      have gotten smarter, or if I’m doing a better job choosing where to
      interview!











      • 12:58 pm September 13, 2010

      • Denver Dad wrote:



      What
      value does “catch the candidate off-guard” provide? I think it a
      control issue on your part.


      It shows how well they can think on their feet. That can tell you a
      lot more about a candidate than their rehearsed answers to the standard
      interview questions.











      • 1:00 pm September 13, 2010

      • Anonymous wrote:



      Editors,
      can you please get the “you are posting comments too quickly” error
      fixed?











      • 1:17 pm September 13, 2010

      • to NE Girl wrote:



      ” And,
      regarding the “when did you graduate from high school” could actually
      be a verification that someone is qualified and has graduated. I’ve seen
      several resumes for positions that state “Attended X College” and then
      list a 4-year span–or just leave the years off completely, for jobs in
      which a degree was listed as a requirement.”


      What if you just put down the degree you earned? Then it’s clear you
      finished. I leave off my graduation dates off my resume, and still
      they ask the date I graduated from college (easiest one to calculate
      age). I’ve had people interested in meeting with me, ask for the date,
      and then I never hear from them again. Anyone have suggestions for how
      to combat this?











      • 1:20 pm September 13, 2010

      • Shawn wrote:



      @NEGirl, the
      question would then be “did you finish high school” not when. Degree
      verification can be done without asking when a person attended a
      college. Plus degree verification can be done by a 3rd party background
      check.











      • 1:22 pm September 13, 2010

      • Anonymous wrote:



      Can the
      Juggle please discuss this from an employer’s perspective? This blog
      (and other parenting blogs) seem to always look at this as if parents
      are discriminated against, yet the point of view of the hiring company
      is never considered.











      • 1:25 pm September 13, 2010

      • A son wrote:



      Anyone have
      suggestions for how to combat this?


      Maybe try - “Oh, I didn’t know you were allowed to ask that…”


      I’d assume they would just move on to the next question….


      Just a thought….











      • 1:36 pm September 13, 2010

      • Rocky Mountain Stepmom
        wrote:



      Editors, can you please get the “you are
      posting comments too quickly” error fixed?


      When you get the error page, just wait 30 seconds and then hit F5.
      You may have to do that twice. Don’t hit the back button — just F5 the
      error page.











      • 1:37 pm September 13, 2010

      • to Anonymous @1:22
        wrote:



      Sure… You start.











      • 1:49 pm September 13, 2010

      • Anonymous wrote:



      When
      you get the error page, just wait 30 seconds and then hit F5. You may
      have to do that twice. Don’t hit the back button — just F5 the error
      page.


      I can get it to work eventually, but I still get it at least twice on
      almost every post. There’s no reason why they can’t get their IT
      people to fix it.


      I have not gotten it 13 times trying to post this. We’ll see if it
      ever goes through.











      • 1:55 pm September 13, 2010

      • D-girl wrote:



      On the
      employer’s side, I favor what’s now being called “behavioral” questions.
      Make the applicant tell you about how he/she dealt with a particular
      issue in the past. Great way to challenge the candidate and get
      information that will be useful in your consideration of that person.
      Some samples are like these:


      Tell me about a recent situation in which you had to deal with a very
      upset customer or co-worker.

      Give me an example of a time when you used your fact-finding skills to
      solve a problem.

      Tell me about a time when you had too many things to do and you were
      required to prioritize your tasks.


      I was on a committee recently in my town to interview candidates for
      school superintendent. We used questions like these, which in my
      opinion gave us more useful information that the “meaning of life”
      questions::


      Please give us an example of what you have done to address parents’
      concerns about the academic curriculum in your school district.


      Please give us examples of how you have held employees accountable
      for performance, in both teaching and administration.











      • 1:58 pm September 13, 2010

      • Dan wrote:



      JMK & Denver
      Dad - I work in accounting, I don’t need someone quick on their feet. I
      need thoughful answers and I think I can tell canned repsonses. I like
      asking about problem solving, a follow up question from me would also
      weed out the BS. When I work with people, I don’t trick them and then
      see how they do. The trick questions, if the originate from HR, are a
      waste of time.











      • 2:02 pm September 13, 2010

      • ratgirlny wrote:



      In my
      line of work, we don’t get “What is the meaning of life” questions.
      Instead, we get puzzles. Grrr, how I hate those puzzle questions. They
      are such a poor indicator of job performance - they measure how well you
      can come up with a quick solution when put on the spot, not how well
      you can analyze a real situation and present good (usually written)
      solutions that take politics (as A Son noted) and user capabilities into
      account.I wish they would ban all puzzle questions from interviews.


      I also wish interviewers would actually bother to read resumes, which
      doesn’t seem to be the norm in the software industry. I’ve even had
      co-interviewers act really surprised when they see me reading the
      resume, as if that would only be for weenies. Once, when I was the one
      being interviewed, the fact that I had worked PT for a number of years
      came up. The intervewer leaned forward and asked “How do you plan to
      catch up technically after those years of working part time?”. Um, if
      you had READ my resume, you would have seen that during those very
      years, I was on my company’s task force to re-architect the entire
      software product, and that I had successfully turned in large projects
      using very up to date technology, the same technology that you are
      supposedly hiring for. But I suspect he had never bothered to see what I
      had actually worked on.











      • 2:05 pm September 13, 2010

      • Denver Dad wrote:



      Dan,
      then obviously that’s not something you need to look for. But there are
      a lot of positions where you (the general you, not you specifically) do
      need someone who can think quickly, so it makes sense that you would
      ask questions that will allow you to evaluate that.











      • 2:34 pm September 13, 2010

      • True But Be Careful
        wrote:



      To Minneapolis: “Elys - why not just say,
      “I’m sorry, I don’t see how this is relevant to the job” and leave it at
      that?”


      Downside to that is that you may come off as antagonistic - right
      there interview is over. It is sad that people will ask these types of
      questions. I got those and more when interviewing at major companies as
      recently as three years ago.











      • 2:45 pm September 13, 2010

      • ellieand theboys wrote:



      I
      find it amazing what people will routinely do with information on their
      own resume if you give them a bit of rope. You don’t even have to ask
      difficult questions. I frequently encounter people who can’t describe a
      project they’ve listed prominently, can’t answer why they chose a degree
      program they’ve allocated meaningful real estate to, or can’t summarize
      their career progression. I think anything someone puts down on their
      resume is fair game to ask questions about, and I find that you don’t
      really need trick questions if you are come to the interview prepared.
      The other thing that gets me is people who give references without
      actually making sure their reference will be helpful to them, or put
      down facts about their education that stretch the truth, figuring noone
      will check. I remember interviewing a woman once who put in writing
      she’d completed her undergraduate degree at Columbia and gave a lot of
      information about her coursework that turned out to be made up. She then
      provided the dean of her field of study as a reference — when I called
      the guy he said he was surprised she’d given him as a reference as he’d
      been instrumental in her not receiving her degree!











      • 2:59 pm September 13, 2010

      • NEGirl wrote:



      If I see
      the degree listed, no I don’t ask what year.


      and still they ask the date I graduated from college (easiest one
      to calculate age).


      My mom finished college when I was in elementary school. The year she
      graduated would in no way give someone an idea of her age.


      @ellie, one of my former employers was doing some resume/reference
      checks on a job candidate once, and discovered upon calling one of the
      references that most of the resume was either substantially embellished
      or outright lies (including graduating college). It baffles me why
      someone would outright lie on a resume–this was in a smallish town in a
      very small industry. Word gets around.











      • 3:16 pm September 13, 2010

      • Anonymous wrote:



      If
      somebody asks an inappropriate question, answer it. Then, if you’re not
      hired you can argue that it was on the basis of your answer to the
      inappropriate question.











      • 3:25 pm September 13, 2010

      • Santa Barbara Juggler
        wrote:



      I like to ask questions that allow the
      candidate to demonstrate their thought process and people/political
      skills. Examples are:

      - Describe the most difficult problem you have had to solve. Explain
      how you solved it.

      - Tell us about a situation that required that you stand up for a
      decision even though your manager/s opposed it.











      • 3:46 pm September 13, 2010

      • Sully wrote:



      Most importantly
      in an interview you need to ascertain how well the employee performed
      in their most recent related job. The best way to do that is to ask -
      Who did you report to when you worked at company X as a Financial
      Analyst? How many other Financial Analysts reported to (John or Helen or
      Andy)? What will John say was you greatest strength and where will he
      rank you among his six direct reports when I call him? Why?











      • 3:51 pm September 13, 2010

      • Anonymous wrote:



      Remember
      that employers have requirements they are trying to fill. While the
      vast majority of employees are going to do their best for the company,
      there are some that will take advantage of their situations. A hiring
      manager does need to know everything they can learn to determine if a
      person will be a responsible employee or will be taking a lot of time of
      for parenting activities.











      • 3:54 pm September 13, 2010

      • Sully wrote:



      As to illegal
      questions, such as those obviously designed to ascertain age, simply lie
      credibly in the verbal interview and leave the date of college
      graduation off the application. Same thing with pregnancy questions,
      marital intention questions, etc. You later may want to think about
      whether to accept a job with a boss who asks such questions; but at
      least you will have the choice.


      Naturally I’m assuming that you started the experience section of
      your resume with a job that presents your age as the youngest possible
      credible one.











      • 4:05 pm September 13, 2010

      • MiaMama wrote:



      We now
      include a case study and have people verbally go through their
      conclusions and methodology. It is very helpful in assessing how ready
      the candidate is for our work.


      Sully - how does that question help when someone is leaving a company
      where they have a horrific manager?











      • 4:28 pm September 13, 2010

      • Anonymous wrote:



      Sully: I
      don’t think you can ask any of those questions either. You are allowed
      to get references and that may be their prior supervisor but the most
      you are allowed to legally ask is whether or not they would hire that
      person again.











      • 4:43 pm September 13, 2010

      • Chicago Mom wrote:



      I
      would love if someone asked me the “meaning of life” question. That’d be
      an easy one! Hasn’t anyone seen “City Slickers?”


      Jack Palance: “Do you know what the secret of life is? One thing.
      Just one thing. You stick to that and everything else don’t mean shit.”

      Billy Crystal: “Yeah, but what’s that one thing?”

      Jack Palance: “That’s what you’ve got to figure out.”











      • 4:46 pm September 13, 2010

      • anonymous wrote:



      My Mom
      had an interview yesterday for a housekeeping position. She was asked
      what her after work activities were and what education her daughter
      obtained after coming to USA. Then, she insinuated that it is unlikely
      to attend a prestigious institution after a short time in the States.
      She was also asking her about private lives of my Mom’s old employers,
      whom, it turns out, she knew.











      • 5:09 pm September 13, 2010

      • Rocky Mountain Stepmom
        wrote:



      We now include a case study and have people
      verbally go through their conclusions and methodology. It is very
      helpful in assessing how ready the candidate is for our work.


      That’s a great idea. Allows for back-and-forth between the
      interviewers and the candidate, too. So much better than staring at
      them silently.


      We used to ask questions about mistakes they’d made and how they’d
      dealt with the outcome. People say amazing things, or else they insist
      on picking an example that’s obviously supposed to make them look good —
      kind of like answering “I’m a perfectionist” or “I’m a workaholic” to
      the “what’s your worst quality?” question.











      • 5:20 pm September 13, 2010

      • Sully wrote:



      Anonymous -
      there is nothing illegal or immoral about asking a candidate how he
      expects his former boss to evaluate him as to weakness, strength, etc.
      In some cases former bosses (or their companies) refuse to give
      references. If that’s the case at least you have the answer of the
      potential employee to evaluate for honesty.


      MiaMamma - Good point, anybody can have a bad job experience and most
      people have if they’ve been employed for any length of time. In fact
      it’s a good idea to interview a person until you find the work skeleton
      they are hiding in in a closet so that you can evaluate whether you can
      live with it.

      As to a person who who had a horrible manager you will learn something
      from how the person describes his or her issues with that manager. And
      then, of course you will ask that same series of questions about another
      job and another manager. If the second manager was also “horrible” you
      can ask about a third manager, or you can decide to allow the candidate
      only two strikes before they’re out.











      • 5:25 pm September 13, 2010

      • Washington, DC wrote:



      During
      a job interview several years ago, the CEO leaned forward in his chair,
      lowered his voice, and asked me: “Just between you and me, what church
      do you attend?” Flabbergasted and caught off guard, I told him the
      denomination. He said “good” and then offered me a job.











      • 5:27 pm September 13, 2010

      • to Anonymous at 4:46
        wrote:



      I would hope that the questions about the
      private lives of former employers were to determine that your mother
      would say something like “I’m sorry, but I believe in the
      confidentiality of private information of my former employers, just as
      I’m sure you would want me to keep your private information confidential
      and not share it with others.” I certainly would not want to hire
      someone to work in my home if she were in the habit of discussing things
      about my private life with others.











      • 6:31 pm September 13, 2010

      • Anonymous wrote:



      “I
      would hope that the questions about the private lives of former
      employers were to determine that your mother would say something like
      “I’m sorry, but I believe in the confidentiality of private information
      of my former employers, just as I’m sure you would want me to keep your
      private information confidential and not share it with others.” I
      certainly would not want to hire someone to work in my home if she were
      in the habit of discussing things about my private life with others.”


      A very, very strange way of discerning that trait. And I’m sure
      somebody interviewing for a housekeeping position would feel comfortable
      speaking that way to a potential employer in this economy!











      • 7:17 pm September 13, 2010

      • Tucker wrote:



      “I’m
      sorry, I don’t see how this is relevant to the job”

      “sorry, not your business.”

      “Oh, I didn’t know you were allowed to ask that…”

      “I’m sorry, but I believe in the confidentiality of private information
      of my former employers.”


      These answers are absolutely perfect for someone who wants to ensure
      that he doesn’t get a single job offer.


      “I think among two equally qualified candidates the person with a
      large extended family in the area and who is planning to have kids and
      settle there long term would have a better shot at the job.”


      I know, absolutely, and I definitely understand the thinking. When I
      was first interviewing, though, it took me a little while to figure out
      why they wanted to know what I liked about the area. I kind of thought
      it was filed under that friendly, how’s the hotel, was the traffic OK
      kind of banter. I guess I’m not that quick. The recent track records
      of my single vs. married friends play this trend out perfectly though.


      Regarding the interviewers who ask a question and stare at you…I had
      one once. He wasn’t specifically my interviewer, it was more like one
      of those all-afternoon extravaganzas where I got shuttled around here
      and there; “Oh, so and so definitely wanted to meet with you, let’s see
      if he’s available now…No, we’ll come back, let’s show you around a
      little bit and we’ll get a bite to eat, then I’ll introduce you to…” So
      I ended up having about six “interviews” for one job.


      Anyway, this one director was the kind of person who would ask a
      question and during my answer would stare at me completely poker-faced.
      No verbal affirmations, no expression changes, nothing. When I
      finished, there would often be a long pause, so sometimes I would wait
      about 10 seconds, add a little more, wait, and so forth.


      I thought “Yikes, this guy likes tough interviews.” I was ultimately
      offered the job but turned it down for other reasons.


      A few years down the road, and he’s working for a different company
      and we’ve been working for/with him on occasion. Turns out, that’s not
      his interviewing personality, that’s just the way he is in normal
      conversation. I was absolutely floored. He’s a really nice guy too,
      but darn if he isn’t uncomfortable to talk to sometimes.











      • 8:45 pm September 13, 2010

      • Older Mom wrote:



      I
      probably hired 40-50 people during my career. One of my favorite
      questions was - if we were to ask your current co-workers about you,
      what would they say. It’s amazing what responses I would get. Everything
      from the predictable - “I’m a hard worker and really conscientious” to
      “I’m really difficult to get along with”. I also found the situational
      questions to be very helpful in making the hiring decision. And I never
      wanted HR people in on the interview. I found them to be totally
      useless.











      • 9:37 pm September 13, 2010

      • Charlotte Juggler wrote:



      I’ve
      never had uncomfortable personal questions during an interview. I am
      grateful that the law prohibits asking questions not relevant to the
      job. This is overseas - my mother used to be frequently asked very
      personal questions questions about her family, religion etc while
      climbing up the ladder. As a woman she was one of very few in senior
      management and she said she had a good mind to tell her interviewers to
      cut the c***p.

      I recently had an interview where the interviewer had a checklist of the
      situational behavior type questions posters mentioned above. This was
      an internal position and we are all told in advance to expect this sort
      of interview. The interviewer kept checking off the questions to make
      sure he had the sheet filled out for HR.

      After he was done we had more of an easygoing conversation where he
      asked me about my past experience etc. I felt the first part of the
      interview was a sheer waste of time. Some interviewer are comfortable
      with behavior questions, some are not. I did not get the job but did
      receive feedback that I interviewed well but they went for a candidate
      with more experience.











      • 4:47 am September 14, 2010

      • Marianne wrote:



      “Are you
      planning to have children any time soon?”

      “It’s funny, my mum keeps asking me that as well”

      “So what do you say to her?”

      “None of your business !”











      • 7:25 am September 14, 2010

      • Anonymous wrote:



      I’m a
      military wife and usually employers look at my resume and say something
      like:

      “Gee, you sure have moved around a lot . . . . .” and then I guess the
      implication is that I should explain why. “I’m a military wife” sounds
      better than “I’m a derelict who can’t hold a job” but still conveys the
      information that yes, I’ll probably move away which might mean you
      shouldn’t invest any money in training me or count on me to be moving up
      the hierarchy anytime soon. Any advice on how to answer that in a way
      that won’t hurt my chances?











      • 8:05 am September 14, 2010

      • LStages to Anon at 7:25am
        wrote:



      Anon @ 7:25am, I’d be up front about it. It
      may hurt your chances, but I believe it’s the better way to go. That
      would always be my instinct, but I’ve also put this in practice once. I
      was interviewing in a town where we’d only be for two years given DH’s
      training, and I let the firm know from the start that was the deal.
      There was *some* chance we could stay longer, but I let them know it was
      only possible, not probable. When it came time for us to leave town,
      there were no hard feelings from my firm, the firm partners offered
      recommendation letters and I am still in contact w/ them. Had I lied or
      lead them on about my plans, our parting would’ve been far different,
      I’m guessing, and I wouldn’t have been able to blame them. Depending on
      your profession, the network can be pretty small, and I think ensuring
      your reputation is good is the key. Best of luck!











      • 10:01 am September 14, 2010

      • Andrew W Dix wrote:



      I
      find asking candidates, “Can you please share with me some information
      on a topic that you are personally passionate about?” to be very helpful
      in getting a glimpse beyond their corporate facade. It’s surprising
      that some people are unable to think of a topic and it is even more
      suprising to hear some of the topics candidates immediately choose to
      share.


      Andrew W Dix

      Author, “Life Matches: Fire Up Your Life!”

      http://www.lifematchesbook.com











      • 11:00 am September 14, 2010

      • Harshad wrote:



      I have
      been asked several such questions, like: which party will rule india?
      what is your view on politics? Do you like Mahatma Gandhi? If yes, Why?
      if No, Why?


      Seems that interviewee is prepared to ask such type of questions.


      At last I was rejected!


      But, when someone ask these type of questions, I answer them quietly,
      but reject offers if any. This is because, if they are trying to
      explore my personal view’s there might be the some case wherein I need
      to compromise my personal life for their fool’s work. I don’t want this
      to happen…. by any means….











      • 11:05 am September 14, 2010

      • Jeremiah wrote:



      I worked
      for a boss back in the ’60s and ’70s who deliberately brought up
      off-the-wall questions or statements when conducting an interview to
      fill a professional position just to see how the interviewee - whether
      male or female - would react. (He never did so with applicants for
      clerical or other support positions.) One of his favorites was: “When
      was your most recent homosexual experience?” He had a degree in
      psychology and fancied himself an expert in assessing applicants’
      motivations and “hot buttons.” He’d never survive in the present.











      • 12:24 pm September 14, 2010

      • commoncents wrote:



      Thirty
      seven years ago, I was applying for a clerk job in a major drug chain.
      The store accepted my application, and asked at that time if I was
      planning on having a child, I said no. Then they sent a woman from
      the company here, from the city to interview me. Her first question was
      ” Why do you want to work… your husband makes lots of money?” I was
      soooo young and dumb but I answered it, in detail and with a quip. I
      got the job on that day.

      We all know that interviewers don’t need to ask those questions now
      because our background, education, familly, personal matters are all
      part of public record. Interviewers can know ahead of time what your
      debts are, how long you’ve lived at your current address, and what kind
      of car you drive. If you’ve ever been arrested, and your work record
      anywhere you worked for pay, is also part of public record.











      • 1:02 pm September 14, 2010

      • Philip127 wrote:



      Right
      after getting out of the military I was at an interview and the woman
      asked me “how many people did you kill?” Needless to say I was never
      called back and didn’t really care.











      • 1:17 pm September 14, 2010

      • ralphtf wrote:



      bitch











      • 1:18 pm September 14, 2010

      • shardae andrews wrote:



      Right
      after getting out of the military I was at an interview and the woman
      asked me “how many people did you kill?” Needless to say I was never
      called back and didn’t really care.











      • 1:39 pm September 14, 2010

      • Seattle wrote:



      I once
      interviewed at a local, non-religious non-profit for a direct service
      position working with youth. I made it through two rounds and had a
      final round with the national director over the phone. She asked me all
      kinds of explicit, personal questions about my family (trying, I
      imagine, to get at my motivations for the work), but when she asked me
      my religion, I finally clammed up and later extricated myself from the
      process. I now regret not calling her out on how inappropriate she was
      & reporting her to the Department of Labor.











      • 1:58 pm September 14, 2010

      • Rocks and Rills wrote:



      As
      a young man (whoops, I have to use the genderless, “person,” don’t I?
      and come to think of it, I can’t say “young,” either, because it smacks
      of age-ism), I was asked. “What is your Achilles heel?” I responded,
      straightforwardly, “A tendon in back of my ankle.” I was not hired, but
      I think it’s because I knew more about anatomy than the questioner.











      • 2:16 pm September 14, 2010

      • Anonymous wrote:



      The
      meaning of Life? How trite.











      • 3:02 pm September 14, 2010

      • BlueEntrepreneur wrote:



      Let’s
      be clear:


      As the interviewer, this is MY company. If you want to work for ME,
      answer MY questions.


      If you want to work for US, answer OUR questions.


      No topics are untouchable. We have the right to know who we are
      hiring, employing, and who is taking care of our customers.


      Otherwise, you wind up with an IRS-like organization that couldn’t
      possibly function or compete in the real world.











      • 3:11 pm September 14, 2010

      • wcmillionairre wrote:



      Job
      interview?

      What IS that?











      • 4:15 pm September 14, 2010

      • jonathan260 wrote:



      1.
      What kind of beer do you have in your frig?

      2. L

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